Dating can be a daunting prospect as a teen, especially with so much going on in your life already. Here are some top tips for surviving the dating game.
Make sure it’s mutual
It can be disheartening when you like someone who doesn’t like you back in the same way. Don’t question yourself or wonder what you’ve done wrong because it’s just how things work. Find someone that makes you feel good about yourself where there is shared trust, fun and feelings.
Various scientific theories suggest a myriad of factors why people may or may not be attracted to each other, from scent and posture, to positivity and shared experiences. Everyone is different, so celebrate your uniqueness and stay true to yourself.
There’s no rush
Dating isn’t a race, and not everyone will want to date in their teens. Figure out what you want and whether you’re ready first; it’s totally your decision so don’t feel rushed.
If you’re already dating, the same rule applies. Learn more about yourself first and don’t feel rushed or pressured into anything. Talk about what expectations you both have and make sure you’re on the same page, which is usually a little easier when dating someone of a similar age.
Remember to play it safe if dating turns sexually physical, and know where you can get checked out for STDs, such as with Chlamydia testing kits in London at www.greenwichsexualhealth.org.
Know when it’s time to call it a day
Whether couples have been together a few weeks or several years, feelings can change for one or both of them and they can end up moving in different directions. If things don’t feel right anymore, talk it through first. If things just aren’t working then it may be time to move on. It may be painful, but you’re made of strong stuff and those feelings won’t last forever.
Love takes time
What is your idea of love? It will vary for everyone, but most would agree it takes time to build and to be nourished, with mutual trust and respect. It’s rare that people find love the first time around. Dating experiences are what can help shape you and your views, helping you learn and grow as a person for when you do find someone that you fall in love with.